Monday, December 1, 2008

flogging

Originally posted on January 2, 2008. Retrieved from the Way Back Machine archive on December 1, 2008.

With my ass now red and burning, He tells me to stand before Him and to undress Him. I want Him more than ever, I want to serve Him, I want to have His cock in my mouth. He instructs me to turn around and He cuffs my hands behind me, then as I am standing before Him, He ties rope around my breasts, binding them and places clamps on both my nipples. After giving the clamps a quick tug, He retrieves the flogger from His bag. The rope is tied tightly around each breast and is also cinched up around my neck, lifting my breasts upwards. He takes the chain that is attached to the nipple clamps and places it in my mouth, stretching my nipples, instructing me not to drop it.

I hold the chain tightly in my teeth, careful not to let go. As He begins to strike my breasts, I raise my head more, increasing the tension on the clamps. His strokes are steady, each lash landing with a combined thud and sting, as the ends of the tails contact my breasts and strained nipples. Although my face is turned up, my eyes are cast down. The bondage, the position, the sound and sensation of the flogger all work together to bring my mind and my will to the place of surrender. My surrender of self, I am His, I exist for His use and His diversion. While my flagellation deepens my surrender, it also awakens me. Each stroke increases the pain, but also my pleasure. I relish the pain as it mixes with ecstacy, every lash sends a jolt through my cunt. My wrists pull hard at the cuffs, my body writhes under the assault, but my lust and yearning increase with the blows. I feel my wetness flow between my legs, I am electrified and alive. I step back and my shoulders round in to retreat, but at the same time I want more. The joining of pleasure and pain, the juxtaposition of my senses and sensablilities, has aroused and excited me. I feel so alive, so turned on, I want Him! I want Him to use me to sate His desires.

My breasts are taut from the bindings and red from His lashes. He directs me in front of the mirror. He tells me; Look at yourself, bound and clamped. I want you to see how beautiful you are. He removes the chain from my teeth and cupping my breasts in His hands, He unclamps my nipples. I gasp at the burn of the blood rushing back.

I am His possession, His toy, His pet. I am beautiful, because He tells me that I am. I am His canvas, His medium, to create and form as He envisions.

"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident."
~ Arthur Schopenhauer

needing you

Originally posted on December 22, 2007. Retrieved from the Way Back Machine archive on December 1, 2008.

I am waiting for you at the door. I am wearing a man's white dress shirt, heels, and nothing else. It has been way too long since we have been together, since I have been able to touch you and taste you and feel your hand across my ass. You pull me close to you and kiss me hard and deep. I suck your tongue into my mouth, I bite at your lip, I need you badly. "What do you need pet?" you ask. My answer is begging, "I need you, I need you to whip me, I want to feel your hand across my ass. I want you to use your belt and the whip. I need your marks on me, I want see the welts and bruises. I need your discipline. You don't know how much I need that from you, please." You smile as you reach behind me and grab my ass, squeezing and pinching, before you lead me upstairs.

In the bedroom, you sit on the edge of the bed, I lay across your lap and you begin to caress and rub my ass. I relax into you, wanting you and needing you, my cunt is wet and hot, anticipating what you are about to give me. I am trying not to be impatient, but I have been waiting months to feel the slap of your hand across my ass. Each day that went by, increased my need, each day made me want it harder and longer, more severe. You are teasing me, but you know what I need, you know what I want. You will not disappoint me, you begin to spank me, not slowly with a warm-up, but hard and intense from the start. It makes me gasp and cry out, but I do not even consider asking you to stop, this is just the beginning, I need so much more from you. You continue, not easing up and not slowing down, the pain and the red heat on my ass are both increasing. I begin to squirm, but with your hand on my waist, you pull me close and tight to secure me. I have lost count of the strokes, I am beginning to wonder if I asked for too much. The pain is intense, but so is my desire, my cunt is hot and wet, I want you to fuck me, but I know you are not even halfway done with the discipline I begged you for. As the strokes begin to slow and you pause to rub my ass, I feel the stinging red glow and think about what is still ahead. You slide me off of your lap and tell me to lay across the bed, you have placed a pillow there, to elevate my ass. After I am in the position, I hear the whoosh of your belt being pulled from the loops. The sound makes me shiver in anticipation. You are behind me, but I hear the belt cut through the air, I tense and feel it land across my ass. The pain is intense, but I want it, I feel charged and alive and very turned on. You give me another dozen strokes with your belt, it is almost too much, I scream into the bed, but I do not ask you to stop.

When you are finished with the belt, you tell me to turn over and hang my head off the edge of the bed. I get into this position and you reach down to touch my cunt and tell me to spread my legs wide. You tell me how wet I am, that you think my clit needs some attention as well, but you want me to suck your cock and not to stop until you tell me to. You unzip your pants and place your cock in my mouth, my head is angled to allow it to slide directly down my throat. As I begin to suck and lick your cock, you pick up the riding crop and tell me to keep my legs spread open. I hear the crop swish through the air, you push your cock deeper into my mouth as the leather tongue of the crop lands on my clit. Involuntarily, my hips buck and my legs jerk closed. You tell me that if I do not keep my legs open, you will have to tie me down and punish me with the whip, I spread my legs again and brace myself. You continue to push your cock into my mouth and to whip my clit with the crop. The lips of my cunt and my clit are becoming red and swollen, but I am also so wet that my juices are soaking the bed underneath me. Your cock in my mouth has muffled any screams that I tried to utter. I am hungrily sucking your cock, I need it, I want it inside me, I am wet and horny and I need your cock inside of my swollen cunt. Your cock is hard and throbbing, I know you need me too. You pull your cock from my mouth and push me to the center of the bed. You quickly strip out of your clothes, but before you mount me, you bring your mouth to my clit. You taste and explore the results of your harsh attention. As you lick and suck it into your mouth, a moan escapes from my lips and my hips shift with my rising orgasm. You bring me right to the edge and then bite down on my clit to take me over the precipice. I scream out from the combination of pain and pleasure and while my cunt is arched up to meet you and pulsing with my climax, you slide up to drive your cock deep inside me.

"Every pleasure or pain has a sort of rivet with which it fastens the soul to the body and pins it down and makes it corporeal, accepting as true whatever the body certifies."
~ Socrates

Content and Comfort

Originally posted on December 28, 2007. Retrieved from the Way Back Machine archives, December 1, 2008.

Yesterday, my patience and forbearance were rewarded with a wonderful day of intense play and spending time together. Today, I am happy and content, though also bruised and sore. I will post briefly about it now, with more to come later. I am still a little foggy about our morning play, I will say it involved a good over-the-knee spanking session, my introduction to a new set of cuffs, breast bondage, a couple of flogging sessions, and some strokes from the riding crop and a wooden bath brush. He also brought the nipple clamps I like. Oh, I don't want to forget to mention, I finally did get to cum, a lot, and He permitted me to suck His cock, which I love.

When we took a break, He generously treated me to lunch at Applebee's. The only requirement was that I had to wear my new Butterfly wireless vibe and He took possession of the remote control. This truly seems to be one of His new favorite playthings. He enjoyed turning it on and off at some of the most inopportune times, culminating with me having an orgasm in the middle of a crowded restaurant, during their lunch rush. Though I did my best to contain myself, in order to avoid repeating the scene from "When Harry Met Sally."

I am now happy and content, as He knows what I need and He knows who I am. He knows my need to submit and my need for the intensity of pain. My thoughts are filled with the results of a very full and intense day. I will post later with more details. It was wonderful just being His pet and being His slut, all in the same day.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else is the greatest accomplishment."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Slave vs Submissive

Originally posted on November 18, 2007. Retrieved from Way Back Machine archives.

Recently, I was asked a question about my Master. I tried to explain that He wasn't my Master, ours is a Dominant/submissive relationship not a Master/slave relationship. It occurred to me that many people (both those in the lifestyle, and especially those who are not) do not differentiate between the two. Yet, I recognize a big difference. He has told me, "you are not a slave, you are my pet." I never considered myself a slave, that is not a desire for me. I have however, completely surrendered to Him in my submission. I believe I no longer hold any limits regarding which requests of His I would acquiesce to. I began thinking about the similarities and the differences and how people define themselves. Before I get into my thoughts on this, I want to emphasize that these are only my thoughts, many definitions are available, but that is not what I am trying to provide here.

My submission satisfies a need that is inside me. My need to surrender my body, my mind, and my will to another. This need could not be satisfied by just anyone. He has put great effort into dominating me. He has explored my mind, my thoughts, my needs and He has exerted His control over me accordingly. He has led me to want to submit, that desire has become a need to surrender to Him. This journey has been much more psychological than physical. He knows me, His knowledge of me sometimes exceeds my knowledge of myself. He recognizes my needs and my desires, He pushes my limits and plants seeds of thought in my mind. As I consider those thoughts, they become desires, they become possible. I am not His slave, I am not owned. Every interaction we have is a choice for me. I choose if I will submit to His control, follow His lead, allow His use. My choice has always been to submit to Him. I cannot imagine withdrawing my submission, but it is always a option. My submission originates out of strength and control, I am strong enough to control my own actions and will. By mastering that control, I can give myself, body and mind, to Him. What does that mean in my D/s relationship? I suppose it means that I am my own master, and by being so, I can surrender to His dominance. My submission is not a gift that I give to Him, it is a need that He meets for me. It allows me the freedom of choosing to relinquish my control in one area of my life. My obedience is not a result of fear. It is a result of my desire to please Him. He does not own me, but I belong to Him.

I have read many posts and articles on the aspects of being a slave. Some sound very much like my role as a submissive, others describe a role that is completely without choice. The majority seem to be completely under someones control, they may be be controlled in every way. Their Master may dictate the food they eat, where and when they sleep, even when they may use the bathroom. They have also surrendered, but not out of strength, their surrender is born out of powerlessness. Their will has been usurped. I am not implying that theirs is not a consensual relationship. They have consented to this control, but beyond that, they have been broken, in order to remove any desire to choose. Often, they do not even have the choice to end the relationship, they must rely on their Master to tell them when and if their life will ever be their own again. They may face punishment or retribution if they do not perform and obey to their Master's specifications. Their submission is based on avoidance of reprisal and chastisement. They are owned. This may also meet a need in a slave. She may find the situation freeing. She has no choice, no will. Everything, even her daily needs are dictated to her. She is free from any decision making. Her only role is to serve her Master.

Cyberian at The Common Sense-ual Dominant has written a couple of posts on the contrasts between the slave and the submissive. He does an excellent job in defining the differences. In the first post What is a Woman? he uses song lyrics to demonstrate the difference:

“Born a Woman”
It makes no difference if you're rich or poor
Or if you're smart or dumb ....
A woman's place in this old world
Is under some man's thumb
And if you're born a woman
You're born to be hurt
You're born to be stepped on, lied to, cheated on
And treated like dirt
Ah if you're born a woman
You're born to be hurt
A woman's lot is to give and give
And go on giving
A woman's got to love and lose
And go on living
Well I was born a woman
I didn't have no say
And when my man finally comes home
He makes me glad it happened that way
Because to be his woman
No price is too great to pay
Yes I was born a woman
I'm glad it happened that way ...

Bet you didn’t see that ending coming, did you? I can’t think of a more concise definition than that for the title of “slave”. But a “slave” is not the same as a “submissive”. While you read the lyrics to Reddy’s anthem, you’ll note her anti-slavery tone. But read between the lines and you’ll realize that there’s nothing incompatible here with the character of a submissive.

“I Am Woman” (excerpt)
You can bend but never break me
'cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman

In his post Bend vs Break he writes: Now, some people in this lifestyle feel that Master, slave, Dominant, submissive, are just labels that mean little to one who is living the lifestyle. And Newbies tend to use the terms 'slave' and 'submissive' interchangeably, but this does a disservice to people who identify with one or the other. And most of the people who are looking for partners on this site are very clear about who they are, even if they mix up the terminology: 'I may be a slave, but I'm not going to jump at your every command!' "Independent slave" is an oxymoron! You're a sub, girl.

The difference is found in the will. The training from a Master breaks the will of his slave, whereas a Dominant bends the will of his sub.

I will admit, that there are varying degrees of control over both submissives and slaves, depending on each individual relationship. I have taken a look at the extreme. The important thing for either is whether the relationship meets the needs of both parties involved and whether the relationship is consensual.

"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality, the touchstone, my command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically, but as a woman, oh God, as a woman, I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding."
~ Anais Nin

exploring the recesses of my mind - Part 2

This is part two of a story I wrote for J. I retrieved it from the archives of my deleted blog that I found at Way Back Machine. Unfortunately, part one is not available. This was originally posted on November 1, 2007.

The sweetness and heat of her cunt in my face and probing of her mouth and tongue on my clit and my cunt excites me and makes me feel connected to her. I feel the weight and softness of her body laying on me, moving in reaction to the pain from the spanking and the pleasure from my mouth on her. I feel, taste, and smell her excitement increasing with the sensations she is experiencing. It increases my desire to give her a release, I want to feel her cum on my face. I reach up around her hips and hug her tightly to me, her belly is pressed to my tits, her movements have made my nipples hard. I hold her firmly and snugly against me, intensifying my assault on her clit. I bury my face into her, licking and sucking at her harder, I can feel each smack on her ass vibrating through her to my mouth. Her body is writhing and rocking against me, I know she is very close. I gently take her clit in my teeth, licking it at the same time. I can hear her whimper and moan, it makes me want her more. He hears it too and increases the force and cadence of His strokes on her ass. Her clit is hard and her juices are flowing to me, I feel her body tense even more. She is squirming, trying to slightly pull her hips away from me, but I pull her down firmly. Holding her securely, my mouth is unyielding, she concurrently cries out and grinds against me. I continue to lick and suck as her cunt pulses on my mouth. I experience her orgasm as her body heaves and shudders against mine. We are joined by the waves of her climax. As her convulsing gives way to trembling, I loosen my grip and she slowly slides off of me. She lays on the bed, spent and breathing hard, I turn to lay next to her. I hug her to me and kiss her mouth, we taste each other on our mouths. My hand slides around to her ass, she flinches a little as I stroke across the welts and redness left by His hand.

He is standing over us, smiling, His hand joins mine on her ass. He lowers himself to the bed beside her. The three of us conjoined by forbidden desires. He reaches across her to stroke and paw at my breasts. I am overcome with an intense devotion and hunger for Him. I reach for His cock, it is hard and erect, I want it in my mouth. I move to take His cock in my mouth, she slides out from between us, to kneel between His thighs. I lower my mouth to engulf His erection, she caresses His balls and licks up His shaft to my mouth. He watches as we work in unison. Licking and mouthing His cock, our lips and tongues meeting, alternating our worship of Him with our kissing each other. His cock is swollen and throbbing, I have never needed it so much. She moves to the side, so I can straddle Him, I lower my cunt to His cock, as she grasps His shaft to guide it inside me. He watches while I ride His cock, rocking and thrusting. She leans over to me, kissing me as she grasps my breast. She rolls my nipple between her finger and thumb. I reach for her clit and find His hand already there. Together, we caress her, I am rubbing her clit, He is thrusting His fingers in her hot cunt. Her other hand finds my clit, rubbing it in rhythm with my thrusts on His cock. I can't hold back, my orgasm impales me onto His cock. I arch and cry out, He groans and I feel His cock pumping His cum inside of me. My cunt is filled and throbbing. I am held upright by her embrace. Still trembling, I feel His cock slide out of my cunt. I begin shivering, I feel like a current is coursing through my body. As she releases her grip on me, she pulls my head down and together, we lick His cock clean, lapping my juices and His cum from it.

"The Edge...there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who know where it is are the ones who have gone over it."~ Hunter S. Thompson

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Final Note and a New Blog

I am writing this post as an explanation of my impetuous behavior that led to deleting my original blog. Since my last divorce, I have said that I would never marry again. I was not in any relationship for a very long time. until I met J. At that time I was not looking for an exclusive relationship. My relationship with J. had progressed quickly (though not too quickly) and had fulfilled me and met needs in me in a way I had not known before. There were limitations on what our relationship could be, but I was fine with those limitations. I had a long term plan for my life, I was taking steps to meet my goals and make that plan a reality. I was happy and content with my life and our relationship. I belonged to Him, I wanted to belong to Him. Ours was a D/s relationship, but it was more than that. He was a close and trusted friend. He was caring and protective of me, to a greater degree than I had ever known. I trusted Him completely. In retrospect, I don't know why I would have ever chosen anything else.

There were other factors though. The stress in my life was building, cost of living outpacing my income. My son being out of work and trying to help him financially, leaving my own bills unpaid. Working full time and finishing school. A never ending string of car problems and repairs. Constant jabs and slights from my older, but less than stable sister. Another man, that I regarded as a friend and mentor, an advisor, but who was wanting more in a relationship with me. It was that last factor that became a tipping point for me. It became a sudden presence in my life. Promises of something easier, something better, more stability. Offers of support, financial and otherwise, while I finished school. A voice telling me that I needed to get away, remove myself from some of the stresses. Being told I was needed, as well as what I needed. I had worked so hard to be independent and strong, but a series of events made me doubt my strength and independence. I succumbed to the promises and the pressure. I told J. that I had to see if I could make things work in a new relationship, I had to explore the possibilities. I should have discussed it with Him, I should have allowed Him to be my voice of reason. Instead I pulled away and cut things off, I knew I would not be able to give Him up if I talked about it or thought about it too long. He was kind and gracious and understanding, He allowed me space, but left the door open.

Not even a month has passed, I needed Him, I missed Him, I came back to Him. In the interim, I acted impulsively. I tried to erase that part of my life in an attempt to deny how much I needed it. That was why I deleted the blog. It was my testament, my record of how important and vital He was to me. I left a loving and caring Dominant, for someone who has turned out to be more controlling than dominant. Someone, who did not really know me, who did not understand me. I have always said that I was not good at relationships, that is not true. I am not good at vanilla relationships, I need to submit, I want to be His pet. With J, my submission came easily, the trust was there, He layed the groundwork, He knew me and understood me, better than anyone else. Even when I tried to deny that, I knew in my heart where I belonged. I belonged with Him, I belonged to Him. I am back, for as long as He will have me, I am His.

I have been able to step back, clear my head and come to my senses. The loss of my blog is a big regret, I have reposted as much as I could, the rest is lost. For myself and for Him, I wanted to try and recreate what I could. I am not sure what I will do with this blog now. Maybe just let it be a reminder to me of when I veered off of my path. Rather than continue here, I have created a new blog. It is the next chapter, it represents a new beginning, a recommitment to to Him and to my plans. I know there are things I want to do and accomplish, things that are very important to me. He is also very important to me, I want to always share some element of my life with Him, whether that be as a friend or a pet or both. The link to the new blog is here, it is my intention for now, to continue posting there.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Blog resurrected

I previously created this blog under the name of Lola. A little less than a month ago, during a personal crisis of sorts, I deleted my profile and the blog. Having found my way again and my sanity, I also faced regret at the loss of my journal. While I do not have copies of all of my posts, I will try and recreate as much as I can. My apologies also to J. The original Growth and Decline was as much a gift to Him as it was a reflection of me.

letter to Him

J,

I have missed you, being in service to you. I need to show you my willingness to surrender to you. I want to meet your needs and to give you release. I need to have your instruction and training, I need your use of me, I need you to take me for your pleasure and your fantasies. I want you to use me to satisfy your darkest desires and to explore your deepest thoughts. I need to be able to touch you and take your cock in my mouth, I want to lick and taste all of you, to worship you with my mouth and my tongue. To completely surrender to you and to show you my desire and dedication to you. My need to be with you is becoming an obsession with me. My thoughts and fantasies are of touching you, serving you and surrendering to your whims and your discipline. I will try to never deny you anything that you ask of me, I want to be completely under your domination and your will.

When I am masturbating, I am remembering your instruction, for my hands to be your hands. As I touch my breasts and stroke my nipples, I feel your hands as I squeeze and pinch them hard. As I rub and pinch my clit, I feel your hands on me, I imagine your teeth, biting and pulling. I long to feel your strokes across my ass, leaving your marks and bruises on me. I need that so badly. I want to feel your hand on my ass, I want to experience your strokes from the brush, but also from the whip and the cane. I want to push myself past my limits, to accept and experience that from you. I want to see and feel your marks for the longest time possible. I want to hear your voice telling me that I am your pet and I will take this for you. I need to take it for myself as well, I need to scream out from the pain, from the pleasure that it gives me. Want to kneel before you and beg you to allow me to have the gift of your discipline, beg you to spank me, to whip me. I want you to take me past what I think I can tolerate, to the place you know I am capable of. I want you to be proud of me, of my surrender to you. I need for you to take me there. Test my limits and push me past them.

I will beg you to allow me to touch you, to lick you, to anticipate your needs. I need to touch and suck your cock, I need to have my mouth on your balls and your ass. I need to touch, lick and worship all of you. I want to be your toy, your plaything that you use for your pleasure and amusement. I am your pet and your slut. I will assume and change those roles as you need me to, as you desire different things from me. Use me to explore and satisfy your desires. I want to wear your rings, as well as your marks. I want explore many things with you, I want to get to the point of being able to climax on your command, I want you to control my ability to do so. I want you to tell me when and how I am allowed to cum. To await your permission or to immediately cum at your command. I want to explore another woman at your direction and in your presence, for she and I to explore each other and to also attend to your needs. The three of us interacting at your will and command. I want to eat her pussy and lick and suck her clit, making her cum for us. I want to work together with her to give you pleasure and to service you, using both of us for your satisfaction, in whatever way you desire. I am your pet, for you to keep me, give me, or direct me in any way you wish. I am consumed by my need to surrender to you, for you to utilize that surrender.

Your possession and use of me is only limited by your own desires.
I am yours.

100 things about me

1. I have brown hair.

2. Sometimes it has been red.

3. If the truth be known, it is probably at least half grey anymore.

4. I love my dogs, almost as much as my kids.

5. I collect Christmas ornaments.

6. I hate feeling like my feet are restrained; I don’t even tuck the sheets in at the foot of the bed.

7. I love to cook.

8. My favorite smell is campfires.

9. I used to show horses.

10. I owned a Quarter Horse named Carlos Bars; I sold him when I got married.

11. I should have kept the horse and passed on the husband.

12. I love wearing skirts, but I usually wear jeans.

13. I love to write, I wish I were better at it.

14. Irises are my favorite flowers.

15. I will turn 50 this year, but sometimes I still feel 20.

16. I love the theater and the opera.

17. I like to mow grass.

18. My favorite color is red.

19. I wear Chanel #5 perfume and have since I was in high school.

20. I love being spanked and flogged.

21. I want to be caned, but it scares me.

22. My college dorm was haunted; Ghost Hunters did a show on it.


23. I do believe in spirits, but I don’t believe in ghosts.

24. I am a Christian, but I incorporate some aspects of Taoism in with it.

25. Three places I would really love to travel to are: Angkor Wat, Cambodia, Machu Picchu, Peru, and Stonehenge, United Kingdom.

26. I love ruins and historical sites.

27. I also love tourist traps/roadside attractions, Rock City is my favorite one, but I love the Belles of Cypress Gardens and the Mermaids at Weeki Wachi Springs too.

28. I can’t wear watches; they do not keep time on me.

29. I am allergic to jewelry, unless it is nickel-free.

30. I wanted to major in anthropology, but my parents said no.

31. Tent camping is my favorite vacation.

32. I love to sew, especially quilting.

33. My grandmother taught me to sew on a treadle sewing machine.

34. She also taught me to quilt, but gave up trying to teach me to knit and crochet.

35. I still cannot knit or crochet.

36. I love roller coasters, but not ones where you stand up.

37. I am afraid of heights.

38. I love traveling on trains.

39. I love reading quotes and try to incorporate them into what I write.

40. I think Sean Connery is the sexiest man in the world, but only after he was older.

41. I love Monty Python and I know the words to The Lumberjack Song.

42. I get migraines.

43. I have had 5 knee surgeries.

45. My trachea was severed by a piece of glass when I was two.
46. I really am a bit accident prone.

47. I love pomegranates, but I don’t eat the seeds.

48. I have three grandchildren, I love doing things with them.

49. They wear me out.

50. I am wondering if I can think of 50 more semi-interesting things about me.

51. Toffifays are my favorite candy, but they’re hard to find.

52. I smoke, even though I know I should quit.

53. I play with my hair and bite my lip when I am nervous or thinking.

54. I try to buy myself fresh flowers once a week.

55. I love fish and seafood, but I hate oysters.

56. I drove a 1972 Dodge Charger in high school.

57. I love muscle cars and car shows.

58. I like to study philosophy and religions.

59. I love the beach and the mountains.

60. I have never traveled outside North America.

61. I love crosswords and word puzzles.

62. I have one brother and two sisters.

63. I am the baby of the family.

64. I love to read.

65. Biographies and memoirs are my favorite genre.

66. I was a daddy’s girl; I really miss my father since he died.

67. He and I used to sail and canoe together.

68. Sometimes I still sleep in one of his old shirts.

69. I kept his slide rule.

70. I am determined to get my Master’s Degree.

71. I love school.

72. I collect music boxes; I love to listen to them.

73. I collect iron doorstops.

74. I collect way too much junk.

75. When I was little, I thought Memorial Day parades were held for my birthday.

76. I love watching fireworks.

77. I am a cancer survivor.

78. Death does not scare me.

79. I love flying kites.

80. I have always had few, but close friends.

81. I love thunder storms, the more severe the better.

82. I hate violence, but like watching boxing.

83. I am sapiosexual.

84. I am a bit of a masochist.

85. I am fascinated by fire.

86. I have a very low tolerance for stupid people.

87. The most famous person I ever met was Margaret Mead.

88. My favorite holiday is Christmas, followed by Halloween.

89. I enjoy going to museums.

90. Working third shift at 7/11 was the worst job I ever had.

91. Working at a stable was the best job I ever had.

92. I am an expert shot with handguns.

93. I have shot a sawed-off shotgun and an AK-47.

94. Giving birth, twice, was the most amazing experience I ever had.

95. I breastfed both my sons.

96. Only five more to go, and yes I am cheating.

97. I have been married and divorced twice.

98. My second husband abused me.

99. I am good at jigsaw puzzles.

100. I have nightmares that I am being strangled.

More Gifts

In keeping with the spirit of giving, I am posting again on the best gifts that I ever received. As I consider these gifts, I realize that none of them were actual concrete things, they were gifts that come from within and they touched my soul.

I grew up in a very conservative family. My father was a staunch Republican. While my parents were loving and taught me many things, some of the greatest lessons I learned were from my aunt. She was much more liberal than my parents, she was very socially aware, she was an activist and she was a teacher. While I was growing up, I spent many weekends at my aunt’s house, she was very attentive to me. Even when I was a child, she treated me with respect and she spoke to me on an adult level. She took me to museums and plays and the symphony. She was never disrespectful or critical of my parents, but she made sure that I received a balanced view of the world.

She taught me to read and to count, later she taught me to multiply and divide, she made me aware of history (not from history books, but the other side of the story). She taught me to cook and to grow vegetables and to be frugal. She taught me to value education, to love learning for the sake of learning. She taught me social awareness. From her I learned of Cesar Chavez and I knew why she boycotted grapes. I knew of Ralph Nader and his crusade for public safety, human rights, and the environment. I knew that Helen Keller was not only a disabled woman, but a socialist and a crusader. My aunt taught me service and charity, together we packed boxes for American soldiers in Viet Nam, but at the same time I knew of the plight of the Viet Namese and the Cambodian boat people. She taught me to reuse and recycle, before it was popular. She taught and tutored me along side of underprivileged, inner city children whose skin was a different color than mine. She taught me to darn socks and patch clothes, because to throw them away was wasteful. At Christmas we collected toys and clothes for the poor.

As a child, I did not always appreciate her lessons, but as an adult I have embraced her views and beliefs. I will never have an opportunity to tell her how great of an influence she has had on my life, but the lessons she taught me were some of my greatest gifts.

“Every extension of knowledge arises from making the conscious the unconscious.”
~ Friedrich Neitzsche

Gifts

I have been feeling a little bah-humbug lately. I LOVE Christmas, but I am sick of what it has become. It seems the holiday season is just an excuse anymore for people to get a severe case of the “gimmees”. The joy, the beauty, and the spirit of the season has been all but lost. In an effort to recover some of the meaning, I began contemplating some of the best gifts that I have received. Not all of these gifts were at Christmas time, in fact many of them were at other times during the year, but they touched my heart all the same. So my intentions is to write about some of them over the course of the next few days.

I seem to have a surprising ability to have remained friends with many of my exes. After a relationship has ended, we have a choice. We can remember and celebrate the cherished moments, the sweetness, the good times or we can dwell on the mistakes, the hurts and the things that contributed to the demise. I prefer to try and remember the things that touched my soul and helped me grow. I still correspond with and occasionally see, my first real boyfriend, my first love, and the boy I gave my virginity to. There is no regret over what might have been or longing to reclaim what was, we are simply friends. This past summer he gave me the wonderful gift of remembrance and affection. The following is an excerpt of the e-mail he sent me that made me smile and allowed me to feel like I was 16 again. I hope he doesn’t mind me sharing it, it was one of the best gifts ever bestowed on me.

Wow.. after your email I spent some time reminiscing.While you weren't my first sexual partner, you might as well have been for all the experience I'd had (sorry about that), & you were so many of my other firsts!The first girl I ever fell in love with... The first girl I ever got in a fist fight over...The first girl I ever lost a friend over, but not the last...The first jealous-rage drunk I'd ever hadThe first time I learned that a bare shoulder, a look, a giggle, a conversation, sweat, a taste, a scent, a cast on a leg, or a smile could be REALLY sexy... (I'm pretty certain that blindfolded, I could pick you out of a room full of women by taking a quick nibble on everyone's neck)The first girl that ever cried while making love to me...My first real heartbreak.If teenagers can be said to really have relationships, ours was my maiden voyage into the sea of adult emotion (good god, isn't THAT lofty sounding!!)

“The greatest gift is a portion of thyself.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Secrets

Originally posted November 12, 2007

I am sure that everyone has secrets. Some we may share with a few people, others we don't tell anyone at all. Sometimes secrets are good, like when you are a kid and you share secrets with your best friend. These are usually silly things like who you have a crush on, or guess who kissed me. Then there are bad secrets. Secrets that you hold inside because you don't know how to verbalize them. Things that you think will make everyone look at you differently, with pity or disgust. Things that happened that left a huge scar on your soul. A scar that is so ugly that you are afraid if anyone sees it they will only see the ugliness and not who you are. You hide the scar, so no one will see it, but it is still there and it just gets uglier.

I hid my secret behind walls. By the time I was done I had a fortress of walls surrounding me. Each wall had a name, my walls were strength, independence, indifference, hatred, anger, mistrust, suspicion. I isolated myself behind these walls, but the secret never went away and the scar never healed. Over the years I let a few people in, but never all the way in. I was alone in the inner sanctum. I did not want anyone to see my disfigurement. Instead of the walls becoming my protection, I began protecting the walls. I could not cry, I knew that tears would erode the walls and leave me vulnerable. I knew that if people saw what makes you cry, they would know what your weaknesses were. People exploit weakness. It even became my motto; Crying is a sign of weakness, never let them see you cry. I became really good at living as this persona, I tried to forget who I used to be. Sometimes she tried to surface, that girl I used to be, but I never let her. I was mad at her, she was weak, she let it happen. I would have never let it happen, I wouldn't have been that weak or stupid. I was wrong though, she wasn't as weak as I thought and I wasn't as strong as I pretended to be.

I became weary of my isolation, I was tired of being alone. I began to explore the possibilities. I found it was safe to meet and talk to people online, I could be anonymous, I could be in control, I could play the game. I saw Him on a vanilla site, I sent a short superficial message. He was a few hours away, enough distance to serve as a buffer, a safety net, we didn't even ever have to meet. He messaged back, we had a lot in common, politics, theatre, he had a dog, an interest in D/s. I read the message several times, He really did bring D/s and sex up in the first message. I had made a cryptic reference to D/s in my profile, my site test results had revealed a bit more, had I made a nebulous invitation to this response? He was intelligent, funny, and despite His direct D/s reference, seemed non-threatening. I was intrigued, I sent another message. Communications continued, our messages were balanced between vanilla topics and BDSM, He recognized my submissiveness, He took the lead. I am not sure why I was compelled to trust Him, but he seems to be able to have that effect on me. I needed to trust, I needed to submit, He met those needs. A little at a time I revealed my secrets, I breached the walls. I let Him in, more than anyone else. I felt safe, He allowed me to expose myself, He was not disgusted or judgmental. There was no pity, only acceptance. He addressed my need to heal, my need to cry.

Crying was a major issue for me, I had suppressed the tears for so long I did not know if I could allow them to come. I knew with the tears would come memories, emotions, all the ugliness that I had locked away. It frightened me, I wasn't sure that I could stand face to face with my former self and not be crushed by the collapsing walls. We talked about the crying issue, He told me we would face it together. I did not think that I could just allow myself to cry, I wrote a post, I imagined a scenario. I would only be able to cry if I was forced to. He disagreed, He told me; "To be honest, I would much rather sit across from you, fully clothed, and talk about your fear of crying and appearance of weakness. To remind you that you're safe with me, regardless of what you expose. To simply talk you into your release... then to comfort and protect you as the walls begin to come down." Not surprisingly, He was correct. We were talking, He was asking me questions about myself, who I was, how I defined myself. That was enough, as I thought about who I was, I knew that my past was part of who I was, that if I was honest, I could not run from it any longer. Unplanned, that simple, I just began to cry. It was that simple, but not that easy. He was there for me, He encouraged me, He comforted me, I cried for over an hour. When it was done, I remembered her, who she was, I remembered it was not her fault. I feel free now, free from my anger towards myself and towards my abuser. I do not forgive him, but I do not have to waste my emotions on him. I am worth more than that. I have basically outlined my abuse in a previous post, but here is my secret:

When I met him, I was recently divorced, he was my neighbor. He was attentive to me and to my son. I was vulnerable, I felt rejected, he made me feel attractive and desirable. There were many red flags, things that should have alerted me to his true nature, but my confidence was shaken, I did not trust my own intuition. He always had an explanation and an excuse. Soon things became very sexual in nature, sex was rough, but I liked it that way. There were several times that I broke things off, but he always talked his way back in, he said he needed me. Despite my better judgement, we ended up getting married, I began to feel trapped. He isolated me from my friends and my family, I felt that all I had was him. Rough sex eventually became rougher, he only seemed to be satisfied when he actually hurt me. He pushed me to engage in rape scenarios during sex, but then the rape became real. It was no longer consensual. He would force me, holding a knife to my throat or just holding my throat and choking me. He began to rape me anally, he ignored my crying and my pleas to stop. I remember when he tore my rectum and I bled for days, he didn't care, he told me that I had liked it. I would have to hide the bruises on my throat, where he had choked me. He degraded me, it excited him. He would hold me down in the tub and urinate on me, in my face and my mouth. He told me I was worthless, that I made him do this to me. He told me I was ugly, what was happening made me feel ugly. The whole situation was ugly. He accused me of wanting other men, he became more controlling, he hurt me more, he would laugh when I begged him to stop. I believed him when he told me that no one cared about me, that there was no where I could go. I was depressed, I was numb, I was helpless.He told me if I left, he would come after me. He told me he would kill himself and it would be my fault. I did not get out until he began abusing my son.

After he was gone, I hated myself for what had happened. I hated him. I wanted to kill him, I wanted him to hurt. I wanted him to be sorry. He never even acknowledged what he had done. I was angry, I was determined that I would never be used or abused again. I decided that I would never need anyone but myself again. That was 17 years ago. It took me this long to know that I did need other people, I needed to heal and to trust. The tears released me, they dissolved the shame and the guilt. They let me tell my story.

"Any real progress takes time and patience and effort. You are making real strides. Don't curse yourself because you're not yet where you want to be; praise yourself that you are on the right track."
~ Adam Rifkin

My Journey - Part 3

My original concept of submission was the ability and the willingness to follow commands and directives. As I delved into this more deeply, I also realized that it extended to anticipating His needs and desires. To become able to determine what He wants and attend to those wants, before being directed. While both of these beliefs are correct, neither of them go far enough. I did not initially recognize my active role in submission; I equated being submissive with being passive and compliant. I assumed it was being made to do His bidding, more about the physical than the psychological.

After His acceptance of my submission and the commencement of my training, the very strong psychological component became apparent to me. He devoted much time and effort into knowing me. I was led to submit my thoughts and my mind, even more than my body. It was more difficult to submit my psyche, than it was to submit my actions and physical self. Revealing my essence, my innermost self, was a test of my submission. The more I allowed Him to know of me, the more I knew myself. The better I understood my desires and my limits, the fewer limits remained. The greater my understanding of self, the deeper my submission.

He developed His control through my own thoughts and interpretations. He constantly placed my submission back in my mind, where it had originated. There in the depths of my mind, my submission grew, it matured, it bloomed. It was through His questions, His probing of my soul, that I came to understand what He knew all along. He confirmed this to me this week, when He told me: The more you understand yourself, the more of yourself you can surrender to me. and You are not a slave, you are my pet. Luckily, you are a pet that can work to understand her training, not merely to react blindly to command. I do finally understand my training.

"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved."
~ William Jennings Bryan

My Journey - Part 2

At the outset of this relationship, I was not in the mind of pursuing a D/s relationship. Respect and trust were developed, mutual interests were discussed (of a non-sexual nature), and shared kinks were talked about. I acknowledged a submissive side, we both found OTK spanking to be a turn on, we both stated an interest in a D/s dynamic. I expected to play with being submissive, to incorporate things into foreplay and sex, but complete submission was never something I considered. I did not yet realize my basic need to submit. I had never had a relationship with someone who knew how to be truly dominant.

As things progressed, he led me to allow him to know me, thoroughly and intimately. His insight and intuition concerning me was amazing. I do not think anyone has ever known me or understood me that well, nor has anyone else ever made the effort to do so. I sometimes felt he could read my mind, or see into my soul. The more intensely he knew me, the more I felt compelled to share with him. I told him of my past, my abuse, my fears, things that no one else knew. He made me feel safe, cared for, and submissive. The more submissive I became, the more I wanted to surrender to him. I also began to change, even others noticed; I was happier, more relaxed, less stressed. I had stated my limits to him early in the relationship. He was respectful of them, but also told me that he would push some of them. His pushing of those limits has never been more than suggesting things and discussing them. However, those communications have left me challenging my own limits. Close examination has shown me that most of my limits are a result of my past abuse. I feel that by having those limits in place, I have allowed my abuser to keep a measure of control over me. I feel this way, because that past abuse still controls my actions and decisions.

My submission and surrender has become a therapy of sorts. By challenging and crossing those limits that result from my abuse, I am moving past that abuse. This is not a method that I would recommend to anyone else, but to me it is cathartic. To engage in some of these activities, with someone that I know cares for me and will keep me safe at all costs, will enable me to overcome the fear and the feelings of shame. I trust him to keep me safer than I could myself. I trust him to know what I need and what I am ready for. He has had to urge caution at times and to remind me of the need to take things slowly. I have tended to push ahead too quickly because this has been so freeing for me.

One of the first things he addressed was my resistance to crying. I hate to cry. I do not want anyone to see my vulnerability. I want to be the strong one. I get mad at myself when I cry. I am afraid that if I begin to cry, I will not be able to stop. There are a lot of suppressed tears inside of me. He has mentioned that I am safe to cry in front of him and that we would work on it eventually. My original reaction was complete resistance, then as I pondered it I realized he was right. I did not know how to cross this limit, my suppression of crying is deeply ingrained. My reaction now is to ask him to spank me, hard and past my limits. Spank me until I cry, I want him to spank me into submission, past the point of resistance. Then he will have to hold me until I am done. For as long as it takes to get it all out. Does the prospect scare me? Absolutely. I do not fear the anticipation of the pain, but the expectation of tears terrifies me. Yet I know it is something I need.
"Pain is only weakness leaving your body, so don't give up because it hurts...keep going because it makes you stronger." ~Brandon Moore

My Journey into Submission - Part 1

I am a strong assertive, confident woman. I pride myself on having well thought out, rational, fact based, defendable opinions and beliefs. Though I try to be respectful of others and their opinions and beliefs, I am quick to debate and slow to back down. I try to maintain a high level of control in my life and over my actions. I do not like to rely on others, my independence and self reliance are extremely important to me. I struggle with displaying vulnerability or humility. I am quick to come to the aid of others, but I find it next to impossible to ask for or accept help from others. I am a private person, I keep my struggles and my pain within myself. It is not that I do not want to impose, it is just that I have to carefully guard those chinks in my own armor. I hate to cry, I view crying as a sign of weakness and refuse to let others see that weakness. I hate to fail. I am a perfectionist, which more often tends to paralyze me for fear of failure and causes me to procrastinate. Despite my excuses ("I work better under pressure, I do not need the help of others, I am protecting myself, everyone has a hidden agenda."), I realize that my independence is often more of a weakness than a strength.

I have not always been this way. Events in my past have served as a catalyst for me to put up walls and trust only myself. I have been married and divorced twice. Though, these were vastly different experiences, the result was the same, I failed. The failure of these marriages were not all my fault, but I recognize my part in it. Many reasons contributed to my divorces, but that is not the purpose of my post today. I will address issues from my second marriage, he was an abuser. He was also a drug addict, a con man, and a socio-path. I do accept my part in all of it, my part was in making piss poor choices to begin with. I chose to be with him, I chose to overlook things, I chose to think that he could change. But in the end, I chose to get out and never allow myself to be that vulnerable again. He was not a wife beater, he did not hit or punch. Instead it was primarily psychological, though physical force did play a role in the end. I was driven to self doubt, to question my value, to accept blame that was not mine to own. The abuse escalated to domestic rape, he subdued me at knife point, through choking, and through physical strength. He forced me to participate in things that were meant to cause me humiliation and degradation. I did not choose to leave until the abuse began to transfer to my son. My eventual departure led me to become fiercely independent. I was never going to allow myself to depend on someone else. I vowed to curtail any vulnerability that would allow someone else to gain the upper hand. In short, I did not want to ever need anyone else again.

What does that have to do with my submission? A hell of a lot. I have always had a submissive side to me, I have to acknowledge that it may have even played a role in my abuse. I have always been attracted to men with strong personalities, men that knew what they wanted and what they wanted was control. I have always desired to be 'taken in hand'. I want to be led, to be guided. I need to submit. My submission completes me, it balances me, it allows me to be vulnerable and to break free of constraints that limit me. My personal growth depends on my submission. After my abuse, I denied my submissive side and needs for a long time, but that need did not go away. All of my previous relationships have been vanilla, though I dabbled in D/s in the context of some of these relationships, it was more of foreplay, role-playing, not true submission. None of the men in my past were Doms. The psychological side was never there. (Abuse is not dominance, so I do not consider that.) I did not realize that I craved to be dominated psychologically. To be led to submit, to surrender fully. To be allowed to give myself to someone else, to choose to offer my complete surrender. To be able to rest in the strength that I relinquished and in the strength that he offers me. I needed to allow someone complete knowledge of me, to have them know me so well, that they know what I need, more than I know myself.

For the first time in my life, I am fulfilling that need. I have found someone who understands my need to submit, to surrender. Someone who is worthy of my trust and vulnerability. Someone who can lead me, can take me in hand, who can dominate me. He has not only accepted my submission, but the responsibility that goes with it. I know he will use it to keep me safe, to help me grow, and to push through my limits. The choice rests with me and I have chosen to give myself to him. To give myself physically, sexually, and psychologically, in order that I may fulfill my need and achieve my potential.

"None are more hopelessly enslaved, than those who falsely believe they are free."
~ Johann W. von Goethe

Destiny

It is my destiny to submit. Submission is something that I have long desired, I just never could quite define that desire. As a teenager and a young adult, I did not know what D/s or submission was. I just knew that I longed to surrender some aspect of myself to another. The thought of being held down and taken sexually was exciting. I knew it wasn't a rape fantasy, I knew that I would not resist, but I did not know how to express that to anyone. And spanking...I fantasized about spanking. Where did that even come from, I was rarely spanked as a child. During that time of my life, I was probably sexually promiscuous, at least by polite society's standards. Despite the number of sexual encounters I had, I knew there was something more I needed.

Just recently have I discovered that submitting is more than a desire. It is something that I need to do. It completes me, it makes me happy and content. It is a component of who I am. I cannot imagine being happy in the context of a vanilla relationship again. The further I explore my submissive side, the more I am able to surrender, the more centered I become. I do not desire to become a slave, or engage in a 24/7, D/s relationship. I have plans, goals that are important to me, that I am not willing to forgo. I also have realized that I want more than play scenarios to meet my submissive needs. I need the relationship part of it, the "knowing" of me, the psychological aspect. I do not think I could casually submit to just anyone. I need someone to explore my mind and emotions in order to gain my submission. Without the psychological component, I think I am too strong willed to yield control to another.

While this is about relationship, because without the relationship this is impossible, it is more about me. It is about satisfying my need for surrender, about finding this balance that has been missing in my life. It is strange to think of complete submission and surrender as a selfish act, but in a way it is. Maybe not a selfish act, but certainly not selfless. I appreciate and admire his dominance. I know that to dominate someone, and accept their submission, requires much thought, responsibility, and work. His responsibility is far greater than mine. He has been very careful to know me, care for me, and ensure my safety. He has accepted responsibility for my physical and my emotional well being. My trust in him is complete and without question. He has earned and inspired that trust. My complete emotional and physical surrender to him seems a small thing in return.

"The longest journey is the journey inwards. Of him who has chosen his destiny, who has started upon his quest for the source of his being."
~Dag Hammarskjold

PMS and D/s

As I travel on a journey to become submissive, it seems that my monthly bout with PMS is trying to throw me overboard. Somehow, dealing with cramping, bloating, and general crankiness does not make me feel submissive. Instead, I feel needy, whiny, and demanding. Fortunately, I have not been with Him during this time. Unfortunately, I have felt compelled to send Him more than daily e-mails, which convey my less than submissive attitude.

This D/s relationship is not 24/7. If I had any intelligence and decorum, I would take my ibuprofen, get my heating pad and go to bed. Instead, I think and overthink what is happening in the relationship, I worry, I become anxious and then I sit down and hammer it all out in an e-mail. Then I reread the e-mail and worry all over again, and send another e-mail. At this point I am amazed and relieved that He hasn't blocked my e-mail from His account. Instead, He tells me that He understands and He does not think I am crazy. Little does He know that I really am, at least this week. I have not told Him directly, that I am PMSing. I have mentioned being hormonal and grouchy, but that is it. For every demanding e-mail, I have followed up with an apologetic one. Of course to me, this would be an additional sign of instability.

I do not think that PMS qualifies for a week long referendum on my submissiveness. My submissiveness involves putting my willfulness in check and turning control over to Him. It is slowly abdicating my limitations and choices and allowing Him the perogative to set those limits and make those choices. It is about trust and honesty. This week, both my trust and honesty have been compromised by out of control hormones. As this week of female hell is wrapping up, I will probably have to suck it up and offer an honest explanantion, followed by a bit of groveling for forgiveness. Next month, I will have to consider requesting that my hands be cuffed behind my back to keep me from any keyboard use.

"Don't trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die."
~ men's restroom wall, Murphy's, Champaign, Ill.

First Encounter

You sit on the edge of the bed and stare at me as I stand before you naked and totally exposed. There is so much I want to say and do. Not knowing what you think, I want to cover myself, I feel so vulnerable, I cast my eyes down and wish I could be perfect for you. I want to be perfect for you. Your silence is screaming at me, I force myself to stand before you, with my arms and hands at my sides. Even in my embarrassment, my cunt feels alive and charged. I have been wet and hot all evening. Chatting through dinner, I felt incoherent; my thoughts were consumed with wanting to touch you, to submit to you, to be devoured by you. Now we are alone and part of me longs to be back at the restaurant. I wonder what I am doing here, common sense and sensibility are trying to pull me away. This has nothing to do with sensibilities, this is animalistic, I am driven by raw instinct and desire. These few minutes have seemed like hours, as I try to calm my inner struggle. As if you knew of the turmoil raging inside me, you reach out and grab my wrist and pull me to you on the bed. As you kiss me deeply, you reach up and grasp my breast, squeezing it and molding it to your hand. With your kiss, you are draining my will from me. I am filled with your presence, with your desire. Sensing the drop in my resistance, you withdraw from me and tell me to lie over your lap. As I comply, bending over, you push my head farther forward, positioning me downward with my ass angled up towards you. This position, that I know will become a familiar one, electrifies me. My senses are all super charged as I am so near you and so exposed. You rest one hand on the small of my back as the other one is rubbing and exploring my ass. You tell me to open my legs and as I comply I feel your hand travel down through my legs and your fingers entering my cunt. I hear a moan escape my lips and my back arches involuntarily. I am open and wet for your touch. My breathing quickens and I feel like I am almost panting. I feel you withdraw your hand, I arch up again as to try to follow your touch, but seconds later your hand comes down hard on my ass with a loud slap. I gasp and squirm a bit, but long for more. Not to disappoint me, you continue, each swat a little harder and louder. I can feel my cheeks getting hot and red, I try to hold still, but my hips are rolling. My body jerks with each smack, rubbing against you. I feel your cock through your pants, growing hard against my belly. It reminds me of all that is still to ensue. You pause occasionally to rub my ass and admire your work, to see how red it is. You also reach down to see how hot and wet my cunt is. I am ready to beg you to fuck me, I am mad with desire to have you inside me. Before I can form the words of my plea, you are rubbing my clit and working my cunt, your touch gets harder and more direct and intense, the muscles in my thighs and stomach tighten and I feel myself coming on your hand. My whole body convulses as I feel the waves of my orgasm wash over me, I hear myself scream, but I don't know where it came from, I am left limp and trembling across your lap. I try to slow my breathing, while I wait for your next command.